Reviews

We are very pleased with the critical acclaim received by “To Find The Way Of Love.” It is very gratifying when a reviewer understands my intentions in writing this book.

“Deehan merges science, economics, psychology, sociology, history, and theology into an accessible and easily understood treatise based on logic, common sense, and spirituality.”

To Find the Way of Love: The Purpose of Our Existence
Oliver E. Deehan

Oliver E. Deehan, a meticulous researcher and observer, seeks to to show how love is the answer to human existence in To Find the Way of Love: The Purpose of Our Existence.

For twenty years, Deehan has sought to understand humankind’s place in the universe when it comes to life and love through science, the social sciences, theology, and philosophy. Deehan believes that the phenomenon of a monotheistic deity—in this case, God’s existence—is in itself love. He draws from material by well-known authors, including Will Durant and Carl Sagan.

Deehan writes, “The importance of relationships in human affairs cannot be overstated. There is implicit recognition of this importance in our role designations . . . In all of these relationships, we as individuals must promote freedom and equality. That is the way of love.”

While his explanation of love seems simple, its application is complex. We must first comprehend what Deehan calls “the fundamental and lasting ramifications of our common biological and physiological inheritance.” When we put individualism before relationships, he believes, inequalities occur and surely evil will ensue. “Evil is a product of human society . . . Each of us is guilty of doing evil every time we support inequality in a relationship,” he writers. “Evil is a matter of choice. It is an exercise in free will. This means man is not controlled by evil and does not need to choose it. “

To Find the Way of Love is a small book, but it contains a wealth of information presented in a carefully researched and detailed fashion. The author makes a compelling case for altruism and equality in order for humanity to outpace the dinosaur’s time on earth. Deehan merges science, economics, psychology, sociology, history, and theology into an accessible and easily understood treatise based on logic, common sense, and spirituality. Deehan’s ideas for a “New Society” based on love will resonate with many people and could promote new ideas for a better world.

Lee Gooden

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“An impressive foray into the inner workings of modern civilization—and how it might yet be saved from itself.”

Deehan, Oliver E.
TO FIND THE WAY OF LOVE: The Purpose of Our Existence

An awkward, somewhat New Age-y title doesn’t begin to adequately serve this thorough analysis of human civilization and its primordial flaws.

Blame it on that pesky old reptilian brain and the ensuing hierarchies hatched in its wake. Be they familial, societal, governmental, religious or whatever else, Deehan convincingly traces the root of all evil to the myriad of stratified, top-down, command-and-control hierarchies that stubbornly persist to this day.

The problem, according to the author, is that these manmade systems—so pervasive in our everyday lives—actually run counter to the intrinsic human need and desire for relationships rooted in freedom and equality. He calls this natural compulsion “love.” Simply put, “love” works, inequity doesn’t.

As evidence, Deehan, a former hospital administrator and Navy fighter pilot, reaches all the way back to the very beginning and the Big Bang, where he finds proof of the inherent righteousness of collaboration in a rapidly cooling bowl of intergalactic “quark soup.” After all, it was here that equal elemental particles were free to join up with whichever other particles they chose to in an unfathomable quest to create something greater than themselves.

Concurring thoughts from pioneering thinkers such as Jared Diamond, Carl Sagan and others further underscore the thesis. Alas, the road mankind (under the undue influence of the self-serving brain) ultimately took was starkly different and probably had its roots in ancient Akkad, where readers are introduced to old king Sargon and his bloody, but ultimately fruitless, 150-year dynasty.

The economy and ease in which the author is able to relate such scientific and historical data is commendable. The writing is clear and focused throughout. In this short yet profound work, hierarchy is the disease, and “love”—in the form of freedom and equality—is the cure. Sadly, one need only look at the profound challenges facing today’s ego-driven, self-interested world to realize that.

An impressive foray into the inner workings of modern civilization—and how it might yet be saved from itself.

The book was a great read and one that I would have to recommend to any that are looking for a book that will challenge them and make them think about their own relationships.

April 5, 2012
“Book Review – To Find the Way of Love” by Dad of Divas

This book looks at our own existence and makes the reader truly ponder what that existence means. The book is a deep read [and] connects these deep thoughts into the way that we think about our own relationships. The book does a great job at intertwining history, and events from history, into a web that connects with the way that we deal with others and the way that we maintain relationships between others.

The book was a great read and one that I would have to recommend to any that are looking for a book that will challenge them and make them think about their own relationships.

 

I found myself highlighting as if this were a text, but it isn’t…it reads so easily, but is strong digestive material.

Charles Bergman, Blairwood Financial

I found myself highlighting as if this were a text, but it isn’t…it reads so easily, but is strong digestive material. The recapping that you do periodically, building each layer, I found extremely beneficial. The aspects of financial malfeasance as it fits into the hierarchy and self-serving aspects of our society that we have discussed I realize you have analyzed much more deeply than have I…I just shriek about it to any listeners as you know.

The evolution of the brain, the historical building of society, the aspects of globalization, the relatively new social networks….these all seem to have been based on your writings. The recent changes in the Middle East seem to come right from your text…remarkable and clearly predicted. I will be sharing this with whomever I can.

 

To Find the Way of Love is an excellent addition to inspirational collections.

The Free Library, MBR (Midwest Book Review)
Bookwatch July 1, 2012
“Micah’s Bookshelf” by Micah Andrew

Love should not be for ourselves alone. To Find The Way of Love: The Purpose of Our Existence is an exploration of altruism and self-interest, as Oliver E. Deehan states that people all too often are mired by their own self-interest above all else…[H]e feels this is bringing a lack of satisfaction to many of our lives, and states that the harmony of society is what can forge better lives for ourselves. To Find the Way of Love is an excellent addition to inspirational collections.

 

Madeline Taylor

Oliver Deehan has written a superb book which names the source of so much human pain as originating in structures of hierarchy which separate us from one another. He describes the solution to this suffering as emanating from our capacity to join “horizontally” in networks; to move from relationships based on domination/subordination to relationships based on partnership and mutual respect…what Martin Buber called I-Thou relating.

This little book is dense with knowledge and heart. It is the summation of a life lived with suffering, self-reflection, growth, and accumulated wisdom. Oliver is better off for his life’s journey, including the relationship he has with his partner of many years, Barbara, and we are better off for the sum total of his knowledge and message that our individual and collective purpose is to find the way of love.

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